Monday, February 28, 2011

Oscar Weekend



We had a lovely visit with daughter V and her husband Matt on Long Island.  We still don't have our bearings without depending upon some written directions, or GPS, which wants to take us a direction we do not want to go.   But I assume that we will eventually master it, if Gerry can ever get the map in his head.  It is an extremely complicated map, involving multiple bodies of water and multiple bridges,  an island and a very large city.  (his internal compass always fails on any island, for some odd reason).

It was an Oscar weekend.  On Friday night at home, we watched a Netflix movie, The Social Network (which is nominated for an Oscar) I didn't care for the movie especially, because the main character was distinctly un-likeable!  Plus, the question of who did what wrong always seemed to be in the gray area, and confusing.

Then Saturday afternoon, we went to the movies to see The King's Speech, which both Gerry and I just loved!  It is such a good movie!  I'd definitely rate it a 5, which I never do with Netflix movies; a 10 on a scale of one to ten.

Saturday morning V took me as a guest to her gym,  which is extremely awesome and upscale.  They get a half price rate, since Matt is a volunteer fireman in the area.  The treadmills have televisions mounted on each one.  I tried a bit of every machine, always enjoying the weight/resistance Nautilus machines that work every part of the body, with all the accompanying aches and pains.  Saturday evening we enjoyed a meal with V& M and Matt's parents for Matt's birthday.  It was delicious with great company and conversation.

We did manage to find our way home in a reasonable time frame, once we got out of the city.  We got home in time to see part of the Oscar Award Ceremony.   I could not have been more thrilled to see Colin Firth win Best Actor, which was what I wanted so much.  But the added bonus was that The King's Speech won Best Picture, which I had not expected.

So besides a good visit,  our weekend was filled with a great deal of Oscar,  something to which  I usually pay little attention, because most of the time their picks are not my picks.  This time, however, they got it right!!

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Color

One View


After the all-white walls of parsonage living, I always wanted colored walls in our home.  It has been arriving slowly.  While Gerry was away, my big "project" was to paint the bottom half of the dining room walls, something I have been planning for a long time.   It was a very difficult and challenging project, once I got into it. I moved the furniture in toward the table in the center of the room,  but I still had to crawl around on my hands and knees to get at painting the walls!   I was so sore and achy when it was all over!  Plus, I spent many hours and days on the molding.  There are actually ten different edges and curves on one piece of molding!  (I used a tiny brush.)

I did show my work to Gerry last night without waiting for him to discover it.  When he got him after midnight, his first question was:  "So what did you change?"  Apparently,  making changes is something I do often enough that he expects it.  He thinks it is beautiful!  (Wise man.)

Now we have one day of a regular routine before heading off for a V&M visit tomorrow.

It's nice to have some cheerful color to liven things up.

Another View

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Headed Home



Gerry is on his way home now.  I know he is very ready to be home, and I am very ready to see him.  There is always an attraction for going somewhere new, seeing new sights, having new adventures.  It is also nice to have a few days to myself and hogging the bed and the garage. But the thrill wears off pretty quickly.  There's nothing as good as coming home, or welcoming home the traveler.

I have a surprise for Gerry when he gets here---a "project" I've been working on.  Maybe I'd better not publish it quite yet, just in case he might log-on and check my blog on a layover.  It is something that I worked on for a number of days in his absence, and wonder what his reaction will be.  It is something I wanted to do all by myself (though never again!!).   I guess it amuses me to "keep a secret".   Not that it is that big a deal.

Also, I suppose I wonder a little bit how long it will take him to notice!

We'll see.  I'll know soon!

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Lunch and Laughter


Yesterday was lunch with the women's bunch.   For some reason, we were full of laughter and outrageousness.  We were loud and obnoxious.  We had the same waitress as last month, and she remembered some of our ordering particulars (tea, no lemon).  Now that's a really good waitress.  Much of the conversation did have to do with "the system" which most of us perceive as being broken,  (the system of which we are all a part).

But I did insist (since I had done my assignment) that we all report on our 'homework for the day'.  What would you name this chapter in your life?  That actually generated some of the best conversation we have had in a long time, and taught us all how much we have in common, relative to the stage of life and related issues in which we find ourselves.  It was fun, and of course,  I've spent too much solitary time lately, so it was great for me!

Then I visited a dear friend, my "second mother" whose health is failing.  For some reason, as I told her my stories of the things I have been doing lately, and she told me hers,  we also had many loud and fun laughs.  I was very glad to learn that she and her husband will be moving to a retirement home facility (which provides all meals) within the next few weeks.   Clearly, both are overwhelmed.  She is now in a wheelchair.  Her husband has also been so stressed, he has been in the hospital a couple of times.  Their children have been so anxious, so this is a very good option for them.  So hopefully, the next time I go visit, I will find them settled into their new abode.  Having watched the challenges of their declines,  gives me a good idea of those to come.  Life doesn't stay the same.  There are always changes.  We have to roll with the punches, and often the punches will take your breath away!

They say that laughter is the very best medicine, and I believe that.  It therefore behooves one to hold fast to one's sense of humor,  no matter the indignities!

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Forest Home Chapel


Today I was filling the pulpit at Forest Home Chapel, a picturesque, lovely small church tucked in the midst of a winding forest road.  As I drove there, I so wished I had brought my camera.  The views were very impressive, a narrow road with trees lining both sides with a flowing bubbling stream for added beauty.  The general area of Forest  Home was settled in 1794. It is clearly a residential area, and is just a stone's throw from the university.  Forest Home Drive itself is not very wide, and it curves a lot.  In fact there is a bridge that can only accommodate one car at a time passing over it.   In 1794, the original road was not even intended for cars.  Now it is the shortest route from the campus to the local mall, so on weekdays the narrow winding road can get quite a bit of traffic.  I used to use that road myself, back when I worked there.

The Chapel was built in 1915.  In the 20's or 30's, John and Pearl Buck attended there, and I  learned today that they had rented rooms in the parsonage next door.

Because the weather has been so treacherous, it did not appear that there would be very many worshipers today,  but in the two minutes before ten o'clock, and the two minutes after, a decent number arrived.

I love filling the pulpit there.  It feels like a "good match" to me. There are quite a few folks with university connections.  Gerry is friends with several of the parishioners, though he is away at the moment.  And I must say, without his smiling, loving face,  it was not as much fun as it would have been with his presence.

If I wanted to serve a church (which I do not),  that would be the one I would be most interested in.  The pastor's office just takes my breath away.  Out the window is a view of a full blown forest, beginning just beyond the window sill.

Today's text was from Corinthians, Paul speaking to the church in Corinth, reminding them about the foundation that he had laid, and how others are building on that foundation now.  That's what we all do, as Christians, continually build on the foundation that has been laid by others, but which always originates with the true foundation, who is Jesus Christ.

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Domestication and Turmoil



 With the blustery weather and the very high winds,  I have to occupy myself somehow, so I have been domesticating.   That involves anything around the house from doing laundry, to ironing, to working on projects, to cooking, and so forth.  Not a good day to be out and about, so I have tried to stay put.  Watched a Netflix movie, have been reading a book, vacuuming, reading the Google news.

But outside the walls of this warm home, the turmoil in the worlds seems to me more intense than I can remember in a long long time.  Revolutions sweep across the Middle East, de-stabilizing nations, which remain vulnerable until new governments/leaders emerge.

On the home front,  protests continue in Wisconsin as government officials take on labor unions, a miniature passionate version of the gathering in Egypt.  Federal and state and local governments all struggle to deal with huge financial deficits.  Tonight's news warns of a possible government shut down. I am not generally a pessimistic person, but watching the news lately makes me fear for the stability of this nation.

The future looks pretty forlorn, at the moment, not unlike the picture above.  Tomorrow is another day.  A little bit of sunshine would make a world of difference.

Friday, February 18, 2011

Got My Wish



Weeks ago when Gerry was planning an out west ski trip, deep in the heart of New York state winter,  I said boldly...."For the week that you are away,  I'm putting in my request for some 60 degree weather!"  He laughed.   That seemed utterly impossible.   I got in my car a few minutes ago to go to the store, and lo and behold, it is 61 degrees today!   I can't believe it.  My request was heard!  Got my wish!

It doesn't even matter that the temperatures are going to drop tonight and it is going to snow tomorrow.  In the heart of a winter like this one,  even half a day of spring-like weather is good for the soul!

I do hope, after all the effort to get there, that Gerry will have good skiing weather for his Utah trip.(and good weather coming home).

Surely, surely, the worst of it is behind us, and spring is on the way!   I hope so.  Here's another request---no more snow after March 15th!

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Staying Put


For many people that I know, the measure of one's 'interesting-ness' rests with how much one has traveled.  In other words,  if you have not traveled some place exotic recently,  there is something missing from your life. Or that tends to be what I perceive.  In several of the groups in which I participate, one is automatically introduced by their travels.  This has a negative effect upon a person who has no desire whatsoever to travel to exotic places.

For most of my life,  I have been moving from place to place, and traveling here and there.  As a preacher's family, we moved frequently when I was a child.  Then in my twenties, as a a military family, we moved frequently to various locations.  In my thirties, I moved to several different abodes, though within the same general vicinity of the state, trying to get settled, which I finally did for a little while, when I married Gerry and we lived in Dryden.

Then I experienced a call to ministry, and once again, that meant many changes in one's living environment.  We have occupied a variety of homes during the past twenty years, in a number of locations.  Now, my greatest need and desire is not to see the world,  but to experience being in one place without moving for the next ten years, hopefully!  (then this house may be too large for aging occupants)

In a recent conversation with a friend who said she would travel constantly, if she could, I realized that like so many people I know,  she has lived all her life in the exact same town.  I can understand why that would make travel more appealing than it is for one who has not lived in any one place for very long.

Probably a contributing factor in my non-desire for travel is the fact that I hate to fly.  That is not because of a fear of flying, but a somewhat claustrophobic reaction to being confined in such a small space for so long. I have racked up some terrible experiences over the years. Now intensified security only makes flying less appealing.

I have traveled and/or lived in various parts of the United States, including Hawaii.  I have been to Canada, Mexico,  England, Ireland, Guatemala, Aruba.  I traveled back and forth from NY to Mississippi for many years until my mother passed away in 2008.

Now my greatest desire is to stay put!   I realize that it makes me boring to other people.    Perhaps the longer I stay home the more boring I will become.

But who knows what adventures might arise in the future?  (though hopefully they will be by car)

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Weather

Okay, so some days it's lovely.  When I got up this morning, the sun was shining brightly on new fallen soft and fluffy snow.   I can see the appeal.  But by the time I got dressed, in order to go and take a picture of it, the sun was already gone, so its appearance was quite short lived.  Now the skies are gray and gloomy again.   Also, there is a bitter and biting wind.  I would have to say that I am quite glad that my guy is a winter guy.  Otherwise the driveway would never get cleared!


Would I want to live in a warmer climate?  Absolutely not!  The other six month of the year are absolutely georgeous here.  And I get just as excited about those as my delightful husband gets about his six.  Nowhere is it more lovely and lush green, with rolling hills and growing fields than in upstate New York!  Winter may be cast in black and white, but summer is in vivid bright infinite color!

So I will suffer what I must, though I will sometimes complain (around February) of the miseries of winter.  The other three seasons are much to my liking!  I would not wish to live anywhere else on earth!   No, not even Hawaii--been there, done that.  Believe it or not, seventy degrees and sunny every single day of the year gets boring too!   Today, though, I wouldn't mind having fifteen minutes of it, just to get me through.

Monday, February 7, 2011

Early Spring



Apparently the groundhog failed to see his shadow this year, predicting an early spring.  Oh, how I hope that turns out to be true.  I am frankly, bored with winter!  The weather has been exactly the same for weeks, months, forever.  Another week ahead of snow and 16 degree weather!  Can't wait for spring.

All the things I love to do the most require warmer weather, unlike my husband who rejoices with the unique differences of each winter day.  Yuk!   I want to play tennis outside.  I want to walk to the store.  I want to plant flowers,  weed the garden, watch the birds, spend hours in the sunroom, and so forth.

While Gerry is away in Utah, I've put in my request for 60 degree weather in New York.  I also hope that turns out to be true as well.    Growing up in the south meant that spring was well under way by February, with daffodils in bloom.  It has taken a quarter of a century for me to be resigned to the fact that spring happens here in May,  late May even!

May the prediction of the groundhog turn out to be true! Please, please!

Spring, spring, come in March
come and bring some warmer days
come real soon, oh lovely spring
Come again, and stay!

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Long (winning) Poem

Ode to Community
  
Town, I am one main street with stores on either side. 
A bank, a service station, a post office.
Four churches.  People gather there for prayers and forgiveness.  Others say they are hypocrites because they are in church.  But the sinners inside know who they are.  By amazing grace, not creed, healed and free.

In the courtyard stands a monument to soldiers who have died in war,
  wreath of flowers from Memorial Day beginning to fade.
And what a parade!
Scouts march by troop, and classic convertibles hold the VIPS, waving to the crowds lining the sidewalks.  Fire trucks and floats.
Vietnam veterans come silently up the street.  Finally, we applaud.  Proud now.  It took a while.

*
City, here
where architecture silhouettes across the sky, tall boxes rising;
and life is faster paced, with the sound of sirens always in the background.
Taxis honk and weave.  Bright lights flash on building sides.
Vendors hawk their wares.
People walk down the streets, looking neither to the right nor left,
but if asked, willingly help a stranger.

Musicals and ballet and operas; high fashion
and fine restaurants, food from every nation imaginable, and people speaking many languages.  Immigrants by the boatload, who came and still do
from sea to shining sea,
to see and taste and feel freedom’s promise, and make a home, a life.
When names are read at graduation, new sounds confound us.
*
Village limits,
settled in 1797, when the first blush of pioneers cut their way through the wilderness.
Now Friday night football reigns; and a well known diner feeds the travelers passing through, fries and pies—homemade all.
Where once there was a country store, now long gone, consumed by
  mega mart or mall.
The library still stands;  now boasts internet as well as books.
Firemen are volunteers. Small churches have closed their doors.
Slower paced here, in a world of speed.
*
Crossroads is about all there is here, where
two lanes converge on a lonely road.  The roads tend to be named after families who have lived here for generations, landowners.  The houses don’t have numbers.  They are named as often after the families who used to own them, as by their current residents. 
It is a place where everyone tends to be related.
Memories are long, and notions fixed.

  Where purple mountain majesty rises
above the fruited plain. 
Caves are buried beneath the surface,
and black hills whisper ancient mystery;  Chief Crazy Horse
gets etched in stone.

The black delta stretches flat as far as the eye can see.
Farmers who once ginned cotton grow catfish now,
  lamenting a way of life long gone,
shattered by a long and weary war. Blue coats. Gray coats.
Red blood.
*
Suburban houses come in rows, not so far apart;
And not so far away are malls with many stores and possibilities.
Children play with other children on their block.  They play together, kick the can,
and wait together for the bus.
Mothers now work until dusk, or more.
Still, they make sure their children have every advantage of sport and dance,
club and course, keepers of the calendar.
Computers rule, and tweets and texts, always in touch,
though rarely to any depth, sadly.
Manicured lawns, gardens too, though only a few
grow food.
No one eats at the table together at night; on the go, on the move.

Country, rolling and green, breadbasket,
with neighbors in the distance, over the hill.
They came to help rebuild our barn when it burned last year.  They came from miles around in their pickup trucks, and gave a day, bringing their hammers and sweat, their food and their willingness. Thirty or more showed up at once. 
It brought tears to my eyes that people could be that generous, and
that good.  I don’t know how they did it, having their own cows to milk.  But here they were. We worked and ate and laughed.  New barn bones were born by the time dark came to the country, where tractors hum, and you can hear the corn grow.
*
Houseboat upon the sea, where I live in my little ship, the two of us
floating from place to place, docking for tonight at the inlet in Freeport,  with its strip of lights and shops and restaurants.  I sit and drink my beer and watch the tourists passing by.  I know the shopkeepers are hoping for a sale. Seashells and trinkets, magnets and lighthouses.  All things nautical.

To warmer ports I shall go, before the cold comes.  
My boat is my home, waves my streets, fish my friends.
Still, I am never lonely, here upon the sea
Where I choose to live, my boat and me.
Old salts find one another at docks and ports, and form their own fraternity.
Community binds us and expects things from us:
to volunteer;  to lead, to serve, to raise funds,
to be firemen, jurors, school board members, city council folk.

Community nurtures us,
through teachers, neighbors, grandmothers.
Educates our children and gathers us into zip codes, hometowns, teams.

We may come from a community defined by faith or nation;
by interest or inclination.
  Quilters, actors, soccer players, motorcyclists, senior citizens.

Community makes demands of us. May love and disappoint us too.
America the melting pot, with open arms. Embracing Iraqi in Nebraska;  Lost boys of Sudan in Syracuse.

We need the shape and form community brings, to fit us in,
the sense that this is who we are, where we belong, 
Where people know our names.

 Not just place, but purpose.  
It isn’t free. This belonging comes with a price.
It demands that we participate. It makes us who we are.
Gives us our identity.
Community.

Friday, February 4, 2011

People We Know

Yesterday, I received an email from a high school classmate--the one who sends out mailings of big news, or about reunions.   He was alerting everyone about a classmate's hospitalization, and cancer and treatment.  A couple of weeks ago, I received an email from the same person, letting us all know that Evelyn had passed away.  Evelyn was admired, respected, loved.  Her demise came as a big shock, hard to imagine.

Today, Gerry came home from the office with sad news about two people he knows, one a faculty friend and former college roommate. This friend has a nasty brain tumor, which has returned after a previous surgery, and he is in the hospital again.  The prognosis is not good.  The wife of a different friend has breast cancer, the really aggressive kind.  When one hears about these ailments afflicting friends you know well,  it is really hard not to take it personally, and to think about your own ending.

For those friends who are still among us, we wish them good days and healing,  effective therapies, excellent care and lots of hope.



While I am not preoccupied with the matter, the questions lurk.  Or at least they do for me.  Not in a morbid way, or a fearful way---more from curiosity.  Who What When How.  and then what?

No doubt we all want the same things, hope the same things.  Good health.  People who love us. Strength for the journey.  Not to be a burden.  To go quickly.  Not to suffer.  Eternal life.  ( I'm so glad I believe in that!!)

Thursday, February 3, 2011

The Manuscript


Over the winter months of 2008-2009,  I finally wrote a novel, which I had always wanted to do. I was between Interims and had not yet figured out how to occupy my time.   I dedicated myself to this task over a period of four or five months.  I learned from my reading and research, and also from a Writer's conference I attended in NYC that publishers don't read manuscripts from unpublished authors. One needs an agent. Turns out the agents greatly prefer published authors as well, with only a small percentage of their clients being new authors.  Add to that that the genre of my writing includes religious/spiritual undertones, not entirely secular, not overtly Christian,  I concluded that it was an impossibility to get my novel published. Nor did I wish to spend years piling up rejection notices. Life is too precious, and I simply am not that motivated to be a published author. I put it on the shelf for a while and forgot about it, something to check off my list.



Yesterday I ran across the manuscript and took it down from the top shelf and started reading it.  It has been well over a year since I have looked at it.  The experience of reading it now has been quite fascinating.  Now I have some distance, some objectivity, and can certainly see some things I would improve, correct, change.  But overall,  reading it this time is more like reading it for the first time.  I'm not editing or looking for typos.  I am simply following the story as it unfolds.

Let me review my own book, which of course, I think is extremely well written.  It is also suspenseful.  Every chapter makes one wonder how these characters are connected to one another.  A mystery is set up which needs to be solved. As I read it, I can't "wait to see what happens".  (though of course, I created it).

This is my best summary of the plot:

       From a mental asylum in upstate New York, to the Mississippi Delta, to Naples, Italy, the reader puts together pieces of a puzzle, revealing a four generation family saga which includes murder, madness, mystery and mayhem.
        In Its Time is a novel about a woman's unique journey of self discovery.  Along the way she uncovers clues, characters, circumstances and connections that lead to a shocking conclusion.

**

Sound interesting?  I do believe it is!

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

On Being from Mississippi

I have lived in New York now far longer than I lived in Mississippi, but the fact remains that I did grow up there for the first twenty years of my life.  From time to time people have asked me about that, thinking in particular about the civil rights movement, which also has many roots in Mississippi.  The sequence of the questions makes it vividly clear that they expect me to have marched against racism, which is much easier to identify if one did not grow up in the midst of it.

When I think about that,  I believe it is a lot like growing up in a dysfunctional family.  You don’t really understand how dysfunctional your family is until you see someone else’s with which to compare it.   In other words, people who never leave the place of their birth really do not know what the rest of the world is like.



But I do have one particular memory of exactly what happened and how I felt about it.  It was 1963.   It felt so odd and strange and ironic even at the time, that I made a conscious effort to impress it upon my memory for posterity.  Word got out that James Meredith was going to enroll in Ole Miss.  Most of the young males in my town,  including my brother, and presumably across the state, all hopped in their pickup trucks, along with their guns, to go and protest.

My friend Bill did not go.  I think he was just a pacifist.  I remember that he badly did not want to go to Viet Nam, either.  He came to my house and we studied for our Civics exam scheduled for the next day.  I thought to myself-- here we are in the midst of history surely being made, studying for a history test about our state.  How ironic!

I did see the vestiges of cruel racism all around me and hated it.  It broke my heart, the stories of harassment I heard about James Meredith at Ole Miss. I knew we were all missing so much because no eye contact was ever made between the races.  I understood completely that all this was entirely contrary to the Gospel I heard on Sundays.

I did not march with the civil rights movement, nor against integration.  I was a teenager who was only mildly aware of what was happening in the world around me. 

 I suppose I did protest, however, in my own way.   I left.

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Gifts


In the past week,  I have received two unexpected gifts from two of my daughters.  A few days ago,  Brenda gave me a lovely scarf she had made for me,  with beautiful silky fabrics she had selected.  It is in brown and orange tones and matches several items in my wardrobe.  There was no special occasion, other than she was thinking of me.

Today I received in the mailbox a soft bulky package, and had no idea what it was, as I was not expecting anything ordered.  Inside I found a beautifully knitted lap robe that daughter Michelle made for me.  I had no idea she could produce such lovely work, not having seen it before.  I am impressed.  In the note she said she made it just because she loves me.  That's just so sweet.  I am deeply touched.

I guess it is the year of the hand made gifts in this family!  I just finished making a ski-locker-glove-organizer for Gerry.  It had to be made to locker size, with ten pockets. I had only a drawing on a napkin to go by, but I got it done!

Brenda has been crafty for a long time.  I'm the one who is new at this.  She now shakes her head at me in disbelief,  never before having seen me sew.   If I do say so myself,  I am pretty good at it.

Of course, there is much much yet to learn, yet to do.  And thank goodness for that!